Conversations with Lucid Dreamers

This post is inspired by a dreamer who, while experiencing a dream showing events of her life, asked me if this is like having a near death experience where you see your life flash before your eyes. It certainly looked like it. 

The purpose of the dream was to show her that in spite of her doubts about a drastic career change, she had always successfully achieved whatever she set her heart on. Apparently she had never quite viewed her life through those lenses.

It is always fun to see how lucid dreamers react they realise that they are in the dreamscape. Some are very comfortable in the dream world and promptly set out to investigate. They become so engrossed in their adventure that I need to remind them to tell me what’s happening ‘over there’ so that we have it on record.

Others are much more tentative but will adapt to their new surroundings with gentle reassurance that I’m right here to keep them safe. And then there are those who are afraid of having to make their own choices on what to do and where to go. These ones need a bit of prodding. We sometimes forget that making choices can be a potentially stressful event, equally stressful as finding ourselves in an unfamiliar environment.

Here are some common conversations that pop up during a lucid dream session.

  • Dreamer: I don’t know what’s this.
  • Me: Tell me more and let’s figure it out
  • It doesn’t make sense
  • It’s a dream, it doesn’t need to make sense. Just enjoy the ride.
  • This is a long road that I’m walking on. It’s really far.
  • You can fly, you know?
  • It’s really bright here.
  • Make yourself a pair of sunglasses.
  • It’s too dark I can’t see anything.
  • Create your own light source.
  • There’s this black thing. It doesn’t look nice.
  • Wanna go make friends?
  • There are many paths. I don’t know which is the right one.
  • Take any one. If you don’t like it, come back and take a different one.
  • I’m standing on a cliff. You’re gonna ask me to jump aren’t you?
  • Yup. Give yourself a pair of wings, parachute, jet propellers, whatever.

Some dreamers are bewildered by the variety of choices available. Never happened before, how do I choose? They are stumped: what do I do now? They’d never allowed their creative selves to come out to play, may not even know that they have one. For many, this is the only time that there’s no fear of failure, a perfect place to try out new ideas.

When we review the dream, some dreamers realise that they’d been operating in a rather limited way. They are now aware of a wonderful world of choices and different perspectives that they could explore. They just need a good dose of imagination and courage.

The Spacie

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My friend is a therapist who works with autistic children. I got a frantic call about this young chap who was screaming each night, terrified of three people who kept appearing. Can we check it out? The mum is ready to try anything to make this stop.

The dream session was held at my friend’s office. The teen was somewhat shy, not terribly communicative, and no eye contact either. His therapist and mum explained to him what the dream session was about, and that we’re going to find out more about the people who are appearing each night and making him scared. We assured him that we will keep him safe while we check. 

He settled in, complete with blanket and soft cushion to cuddle. However, when he closed his eyes, they wouldn’t stay shut and he asked for a blindfold. One blindfold coming up and adjusted to his satisfaction. He soon pointed to ‘three people’ in front of him. I asked if he recognised them and he immediately identified them as his friends ‘from before’. Before what? Before he came to earth. They needed to take him somewhere. I asked whether he wanted to go with them. He enthusiastically nodded his head. 

He was taken to where a spaceship was grounded. Seems he used to captain this spaceship and his crewmates needed his expertise to repair it. Thus their urgency in getting his attention. He proceeded to fix a series of engineering issues that took a while. Although he explained what he was doing, I had to depend on his mum and therapist to translate.  

My communication with him was complicated by speech and language limitations. Although he seemed to understand my questions, I had to continuously look to his mum and therapist to translate what he was saying. His mum filled me in later with loads more details of what actually happened during the dream session and interesting events that followed.

He was really happy after the dream session. His mum had never seen him this animated, chatty and smiley. He’d always told them that he came from far away, does not belong on earth and wants to go home. This dream session gave them more understanding of his fascination with the stars and engineering concepts, and a way to engage his attention and nurture his development. Way to go!!!


Can people share the same dream space?

Is it possible to see another person’s dream?

On a quiet Sunday morning, I caught up with my friend Yoke Chan, her husband KC and her 80-year old mum. All three have had their own separate dream sessions.

Everyone experiences conscious dreaming in their own unique way:

> Yoke Chan has strong sensing, no visuals, garbled audio.

> KC gets perfect visuals and not much else, no audio nor sensing.

> Mum has sensing, audio and visuals but keeps everything private and doesn’t say much.

When Yoke Chan had her first conscious dreaming session, she had no visuals (still doesn’t) but could sense energies in and around her. She could also hear sounds but not words, and could only intuit communication and intent. 

She wanted to check on a medical procedure that she was not happy with. The session was long and complicated. We ran out of time and scheduled another one to continue. She felt fine afterwards, yet not quite convinced about what just happened – because she couldn’t see anything, unlike her normal dreams which come with perfect audio visuals.

That night she dreamt that work was still being done on her body. The next morning her husband told her he dreamt that she was having surgery and gave her full details of what took place, just as she saw in her nighttime dream 😳

He came with her for her next session. Seated across the room, I asked him to close his eyes and tune in while Yoke Chan was consciously dreaming. He was able to see what was happening energetically inside her body, seeing and confirming what she said she was sensing. This was a technically minded, linear guy telling what he sees in a detached clinical manner. It was a brand new experience for me.

I saw them again a few months later. Yoke Chan had been hearing annoying high pitched sounds in one ear and asked if we could check it out. 

Since KC had previously done the “seeing”, I asked if he could close his eyes and “look” at the area his wife indicated. Yoke Chan didn’t close her eyes as she wanted to watch what we were doing. She had no internal visuals anyway. Her intuitive sensing was bright and responsive. She could clearly feel the ‘wiring’ being untangled as she directed us to different areas of discomfort. Working together we fixed it. It was an awesome experience!

When Yoke Chan’s mum requested for a dream session, she had to sit in. Mum speaks Cantonese and Mandarin, I only speak English 😔  She’s a quiet lady who doesn’t talk much, so I had to do loads of gentle prodding to find out what’s happening. She got the information she wanted, and when we finished, she smiled, took my hand and patted it with warmth and affection.

That was more than a year ago. I caught up with them yesterday and we had an impromptu session. I wondered if it’s possible for all three of them to share the same dream space together. To my delight, they were curious too. We pulled out some chairs and made ourselves comfortable.

To see what happened during the group session, check it out here: Group Dreaming